Who am I?
Maybe it’s just me, but I am constantly asking myself this question. Constantly. As I get older, I realize more and more how reflective of a person I really am. Hmmm, maybe why I need days of pure quiet sometimes is less about other people and more about simply telling myself that I need to shush for awhile. Hmmm…
The last few years, the answer to this question has felt like a giant roulette game. Just when I think the ball will drop into place, the wheel keeps spinning just enough to say “nope, not this one”. Then, just as the ball settles into place and I start to feel like I’m settling into a new understanding, life spins the wheel again and the ball spins, spins, and spins. At those times, it can feel like I may never be able to adequately answer the question “Who am I?”.
As disconcerting as this can be at times, there’s a wild excitement too. I can feel a certain, pingy energy that permeates the world around me as I explore new understanding of myself. The possibilities really are endless about how I can and will answer this on any given day. My answers vary based on my confidence level in that identity, my current focus of reflection, and the spins of the wheel I am currently taking part in.
The spins of the wheel that can come out of nowhere aren’t always fun, but I’m getting better at just breathing while I wait for a new answer, a new understanding of who I am to settle in. I can’t really do anything while the wheel spins anyway, so I might as well just breathe and watch it spin.
So, how do I answer this right now? These are the ones I am probably most able to say “Yes, that is who I am.” right now.
I am a mother. My kids are ever present in my mind and my heart. Always!
I am a warrior. Everyday, I am striving for more discipline to work hard and create my best life. I am far stronger than I believe and I am practicing telling myself this.
I am coach – a coach for growth, for health, for learning, for transformation. There’s little I love to do more than help guide people to find ways to grow in believing in themselves. I’ve always leaned towards this identity and now I’m stepping more deeply into it.
I am a hope dealer and a dream weaver. I am ever hopeful that we can make our dreams a reality, as long as we are willing to do the daily work needed to make it so. I almost always can see hope, even in the midst of the darkest of days.
I am a community creator. Together, we are so much stronger and there is great power to heal when we come together.
I am a writer who is deeply in love with the musing part of herself.
I am a widow. This is still twingy to write but it is oh so true.
I am a phoenix widow. A newer identity I am playing with as I experience myself rising from the ashes of my grief.
I am seeker. I am constantly exploring more understanding of myself, my purpose in life and my experience of the world.
I am a person radically committed to her own transformation. I am bound and determined to become the absolute best, happiest, healthiest person I can be. That means I will do things every single day to understand myself more, to create new habits and to make the very best choices I can in each given moment.
I am a believer in magic. This means play, glitter, bubble, a belief that dragons might really be real, and massive imagination.
I am a joy seeker. I truly love to look for joy, even if it is just in little bitty pieces within the dark.
I have every confidence that I could continue to write more in answer to the question “Who am I?”. It’s such a fun thing to explore. But, for today, these are good to breathe life into and through.
How would you answer this question for yourself?