(This photo is from Soulard, one of our favorite places, a few months before we got engaged.)
Well, the horses will have to wait a little longer this morning to eat because my Muse has awoken with a loud, very clear “Now, it is time now to write this!” When she so strongly speaks to me that I can hear nothing else but her voice starting to write the words, I drop everything and start to write. For she is the link to my deepest, truest, more powerful self and honoring what is ready to come forth into the world is essential to my journey.
I knew yesterday morning when I was with my mom, celebrating her amazing health transformation, that my Muse was awakening and formulating the words to write about “My Deepest Why”. Because you see, my mom getting healthier, my dad now getting healthier, my sister-in-laws getting healthier, my brother exploring getting healthier, my friends getting healthier, my kids getting healthier, and my growing passion for encouraging everyone I know to get healthier in whatever way works best for them – all of this is twined around My Deepest Why.
My Deepest Why is the reason that I truly feel like a Phoenix bird rising up out of the issues as if on fire herself. The ashes of my life created by the sudden burning up of the life I knew over 3 1/2 years ago, have been the bed I needed to heal, to explore, and to sort through what must I let go of and what will go with me as I rise into a new life, a new me. I love and honor those ashes for every bit of comfort and every bit of wisdom they have given me. And now, I am rising from them to further live a life of passion and purpose and meaning – one of the greatest truths that Russell and I tried to bring to our lives in all we did. As individuals and as a couple, we believed ourselves to be seekers and dream weavers, helping to create a world filled with love, peace, and hope.
I distract myself even as I write. My Deepest Why, at this time this moment in my life, is to encourage everyone and anyone I can to create a life for themselves that is as healthy and as happy as they possibly can. Actually wait, that’s more my purpose than my why. Writing my WHY, my Deepest one, is scary I think because there is so much emotion in it and around it that saying out loud is feeling a little huge. But my Muse says keep going, you can do this, say it, own it, feel it.
Deep breath in. Deep breath out. My Deepest Why for all that I do in my life and most specifically for my new found passion for helping people transform their lives as a health coach, is that I never, ever, ever want to again watch someone that I love die who might not have if they had been healthier in body, mind and spirit. I can wish all of the time that we had found this before Russell died. But wishing won’t change the fact that we didn’t. I want to have the people I love be able to be with me for as long as they possibly can!
Daily, I am grateful that I have transformed my own health so that, hopefully, I will live a very long life with and for my children. Being here for them as the best mom I can be is so much easier now that I am not consumed with physical pain everyday. I am bound and determined to do all that I can do to live my most healthy life so that I can stay with them.
Now, I do more than wish and dream. I am acting and deciding to live my life with no excuses of being too scared, too busy, too unsure, too whatever gets in the way. There are people I love and care about who need what programs, what wisdom, and what purpose I have found or created. I don’t want to live my life “wishing” I had told them of another way, after they are gone.
I lost Russell and the dreams of us living our best life together for a very long time. I lost myself for a long time in the ashes created when my life burned up in a moment. I am now rediscovering the wonder woman I want to be for myself and the world. I don’t ever want to lose myself so radically again. I don’t ever want to lose anyone else I love because their weight and the unhealthy habits of their life led to a sudden and way too early death. I want to impact live and constantly expand my heart work to love this world and all of the people in mine with all that I am. I want to know that what I have gone through and my sharing it with others might just help even one person feel like they aren’t alone. I want all of us to get healthy so that we truly can create the lives that we only dream of right now.
In this time, this moment, I choose health, hope, love, and living my life as bravely as I can. It’s all I want for all of us!
Thank you my Muse! I stand in awe of my rising from the ashes.