Our why – getting to the heart of it all

(Longer musing than I thought it would be.)

Most of us have something in our lives we’d like to change. Maybe we want to start a new hobby. Maybe we want to feel better physically or emotionally. Maybe we want to move somewhere new. Maybe we want a new job. Maybe we want to stop putting ourselves down for all of the things we think we’re not doing right. Whatever it is for us, we all have something that we keep starting to try to change.

I say starting to try to change because the reality is for most of us it can feel like a constant cha-cha dance of starting and stopping and starting and stopping and on and on it goes. At least this is true for me.

It’s only when we allow ourselves to dig really deep and get to the true heart of our “why” that lasting change has a real chance. Staying at the surface level, first, quick answer is part of what keeps us in the change cha-cha. We’ve got to ask, “Why is it important?” over and over again until we get to our core answer. It is when we find the heart of our why that we find the determination and the drive for real change and our cha-cha dance slows. Let me show you what I mean with one of my own desired areas of change. 

“I want 2023 to be the year I publish a book of my own.” 

Why is it important to me?

“I’ve got stories and ideas inside of me I’ve wanted to share for years.”

Why is it important to me that I share these stories & ideas?

“I feel like there is someone out there who could use my life musings as hope beacons.”

Why is it important to me to offer hope?”

“Because it’s only because of others’ stories that I found hope to keep going through my dark. I want to do the same and pay it forward. “

Why is it important to pay it forward?

“Because I will never be able to pay it back to everyone who’s helped me keep going when I thought I couldn’t. “

Why is it important to pay it back?

“Because I feel like I owe it to the world to not keep these healing heart gifts to myself.”

Why is it important to not keep it all to myself?

“Because it feels like keeping it all to myself would leave a bigger hole in me and leave me feeling like I’m living a “less than ” life.”

Why is it important to publish a book of my own in 2023?

“Because in opening my heart to share the gifts of hope I’ve been given, not only can others possibly heal but I can heal deeper as well.” 

I feel my soul settle into a deeper “Ahhh yessss! It’s all about heart, healing, and hope.” As I allow myself to dive deeper & get closer to the heart of my why, I realize THIS is what will help me stay on track even through moments of doubt. 

If you are curious about playing with this powerful process yourself let me know. I can send you some resources that have been super helpful for me. What if this year became the year that your dreams of change became reality? How cool would that be?! 😎

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