Sometimes there can be no words. Or at least no adequate words to say to someone when a curve ball of life has been thrown at them. Especially if it is someone who’s black and blue already from trying to dodge a lot. In those times when yet one more thing has happened all we can do is be there, give them a hug, and walk alongside them.
I’m also learning that during these times of dodging and weaving I need to step away for a while to regroup and re-center myself before I try to engage too much with people around. Take a quick time out isn’t just for little kids who’ve done something they weren’t supposed to do. Time outs give us a chance to say to the world “I just can’t right now. Give me a few minutes to reset my brain, my heart, and my body.”
As adults we often think we need to just suck it up and keep moving. Allowing ourselves to take a time out can leave some of us (me for sure sometimes) feeling weak and ineffective. However I’m coming to realize that time outs are one of the easiest, best ways for us to put our self-care and our health first. It is 100% okay to say we need to focus on our own needs first. If we don’t do it, no one else will for us.
I’m doing a bit of dodging and weaving this weekend as is Kateri and a few others within our Avalon community. I’m betting there are a lot of folks out there dodging and weaving things being thrown at them quickly and out of nowhere. I am encouraging us all to take time outs when we feel our inner stress level rising. Stop, go to a quiet place, take some deep cleansing breaths, and let go. As we allow ourselves to just settle into the moment, not trying to figure out the future in any way shape or form, perhaps we can settle into a calmer, more grounded space, At least that is my hope my myself and all of us.
All will be well and all is well!